| | Yeah, yeah, yeah! Two entries tonight, sorry 'bout that, but I've
got a list with 10 more ideas I want to share with ya'll and the
world. But two I think will have to wait until I can explain them
in person. My yin-yang of warfare and how respect and equality
are the same thing, but like I said, those are for a later date.
So the last time I went Sufi dancing with Claire, there was one idea I
felt that Asha kept dancing around. Sorry for the pun. And
it was the idea that to be happy, one must enjoy enjoyment. And
it was very interesting for me to think about, because people can
either be happy or can't be. Technically we can be apathetic, but
then again, that technically isn't an emotional. 
So ha! it doesn't exist. It's the absence of the existence of
something that we must always experience in order to be alive.
Without emotions, we aren't living. Yes, that can be argued, but
if you aren't feeling any emotions, your body is hiding them from you
and lying to you about their existence in order to "protect" you.
Unfortunately our physical bodies are scared and don't realized that
dealing with our problems is the only way to heal, so eventually either
our mental beings decay from gangrene or our minds deal with the
problem, experience the needed pain to heal, and life becomes happy
again.
I was once told that to be happy, one must simply be happy. I
agree with that, but I like the idea that to be happy one must simply
enjoy enjoyment. I believe that it is more exact and
specific. If you include people's reactions and events in life,
there are four outcomes. We don't enjoy the unenjoyable things,
that's natural. We enjoy the unenjoyable things, that's usually
some form of masochism or sadism. We don't enjoy the enjoyable
things, that's usually some form of depression. We enjoy the
enjoyable things in life, that's what causes happiness. As I said
in my previous blog, there isn't ever one reason for anything.
Life is the same way, because there are multitudes of stimuli happening
all around us. There isn't one reason to be happy, and there
isn't one reason to be sad, so what happens is that we add up all the
sad things, add up all the happy things, and decide whether it's a good
day or a bad day. But who assigns a value to all the good and
bad? We get to, fortunately it's isn't a dictatorship we live
in. Those four results we gain from life, we decide which one is
us. We can look at the negative and decide it outways the
positive. Or we can look at the positive and decide it outways
the negative. Whether the negative is actually bad or whether the
good is actually good is up to us. But when either of those
happens, it's usually some sort of mental disorder, when we think
bad=good and vice versa, so I don't know the best way to help out with
that, sorry. So let's look at our scoring for negative things and
positive things. You fail a test, so -100 points for the day, you
get a surprise kiss or flower from your significant others +1,000,000
points. Okay,
maybe unrealistic, but sometimes it feels that way. We'll change
it to +500 points, just for an example. You're late to class
because of the kiss -50 points. You're teacher that you love and
respect yells at you for being late the 5 time that week -75
points. You get detention -150 points, which prevents you from
seeing your lover after school, which is normally the only time you
actually see each other -200 points. You ace your physics test,
best grade in the class, and it salvages your much needed "A" +300
points. Wheeze doesn't yell at you for the first time since you
started practice on your show +100 points. So just by my
completely random day and random point values, I had an overall +325
day. A reasonably good day. Maybe a so so day even.
But why did I assign those values to those things? Because I
chose to, right? What if the same things happened, but I grade
them like this. Fail a test -10 points, the kiss +500 points,
late -5, yelled at -10, detention -15, miss your lover after school
-20, ace the test +400, and don't screw up at practice +300. See
the difference? A 1140 for the day. I almost quadrupled my
score, simply by not letting the bad affect me and by enjoying the
enjoyments in my life. Happiness is really hard sometimes, I
know, I've been depressed, but sometimes we need to just pucker up and
start enjoying what little there is to enjoy. And then, when life
is going great, we can enjoy the great stuff even more.
So enjoy what you can, and don't dwell on the crap in life. I
need to follow my own advice, I know, but why can't we all help fix
each other at the same time? Enjoying enjoyment, feel good about
your mind and your body, love someone, or something, with all your
heart and enjoy the ending, no matter what happens. Enjoy the
time spent together and enjoy what you learned from them. I
taught myself to never regret a conscious decision I make, but I can
learn a little bit from each one. Even if the consequences suck,
my present love life for example, I can learn and grow and be happy
because of that. But not only can I be happy because of it, I can
be happy simply because I am happy. I can enjoy the enjoyment
that being in a relationship can bring me. Enjoying enjoyment, a
simply idea that's hard to do, but it's worth it.
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